Hahaha! We all know that it's not the size... ... of the bed that provides the comfort of rest or the exhilaration of good sex. Be it California King or Twin, a firm (but not too hard) mattress, with sheets perfectly blended for softness and durability, and a light lavender mist, and shazamm bada diggity-resting or sexing, is a cinch.
Imagine though, like Dru Hill's lead vocalist, Mark "Sisqó" Andrews, had to do, in the 1996 #1 platinum-selling R&B single, In My Bed, that your lover cheats on you with your close friends. You don't want to believe it, and your lover denies that there's any truth to the rumors you've been hearing everywhere; but you don't want to be a fool.
"I don't want to walk around knowin' I was your fool...
I just can't lose my cool
My friends keep telling me about the things that's going on babe"
But, sometimes, perhaps even frequently, trusting your intuition, feeling your gut, even in the absence of a visit to the Jerry Springer Show or clandestine Cheaters analysis, you just know...
Somebody's sleeping in my bed my bed baby...
I come home early expecting your warm embrace
But something is wrong 'cause its written all over your face"
Those of you that know or remember the song will recall that Sisqó's gut was correct. The gut wrenching blow, the ultimate slap in the face, was delivered at the song's conclusion, when Sisqó walks into the room with a bouquet of flowers, ready to say "sorry babe, let's do this thing, let's get it right" or similar and finds his girlfriend in bed with another---woman.
And it's actually no different when we realize and admit that the unspoken relationship between provider, payor, and policymaker has pushed the patient (the most important but least regarded stakeholder) right out of their own bed.
The countless times that I had patients ask me, "Efua, (a) would you take this medication?" or "(b) how do I treat this disease?" or "(c) can I ever get off of this stuff?" I was also in the patient's bed, though complicitly.
First, let me apologize. I was doing what I was trained to do-suppressing disease and "managing" diseases that should have been prevented-what I was taught-but I know better now, and so I do better, and will continue to do such. Now, there's a pharmacist, a pharmacist with integrity, in the house. Come back to bed. Please.
(a) No (b) Together, we must figure out what caused the disease. Prevention is the only cure. Treatment or management rarely eradicates the problem (c) While difficult, it's definitely possible; but, not starting in the 1st place gives you a much better chance of wellness, health. An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
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